Love the skin you're in
When you care about what others think it's a distraction that will stop you from loving yourself. Sometimes it can take years for you to realize why loving you is important. After reaching my 20s I’m finally comfortable with myself and the woman I’m becoming. I use to be the girl that was in a very dark space with low confidence. I would feel uncomfortable standing up in front of a group of people because I cared so much about what others thought of me. It was bad! For years I would purchase sandals that always covered the back of my foot because I have a scar from stitches I received as a little girl. Now I embrace every bit of that cut. I look at it and laugh like damn you was a rough little girl running around Jersey City. Here I am today walking down the street strutting smiling from ear to ear. I wake up in the morning walk in the bathroom look in the mirror and say positive things to myself. Please don't let me get dress and have a fresh cut I will hype myself up like "oh my god your so damn cute".
I started to take some time to figure out my passions, my likes and dislikes and most importantly spending time alone. When I moved to Atlanta I was on a journey to finding me. I didn't know many people which lead me to force myself to go out alone. I was in the bars by myself. You will be surprised how much you will learn about yourself just by taking yourself out on a date. These past two years I didn't realize I was going through different stages that were preparing me to fall in love with myself…
CHOPPED MY HAIR OFF
I remember sitting in Salon 804 in Harlem on 135th and 7th avenue and it was my 23rd birthday and I wanted to go for something a little shorter. I've had a haircut since my sophomore year of college but it wasn't a pixie I would always add pieces for a full look and I wasn't comfortable without it. So my hair stylist Rochelle looked at me and said: "oh no we not adding this in your hair anymore because its no point your hair is full and healthy." So my hairstylist suggested the pixie style. Listen when I walked out of the shop with my pixie I was walking down the streets of Harlem looking in car windows like "oh my god this is really short. Do I look okay? Do I look like a boy?" Now ask me how I feel about my cut. I’m so in love with my pixie even when my hair starts to grow back quickly I get frustrated. My pixie allows me to be comfortable in my skin. I’m now able to show my full features and bone structure and this good o'l chocolate skin. A woman who cuts her hair is about to change her life.
WEARING RED LIPSTICK
I had this thing where I thought red lipstick wouldn't look as good on me like it would look on a light skin woman. I lied!!!!!! I realized you have to select the perfect red lip to match your skin tone. I tried Ruby Woo Retro Matte Lipstick and it changed my life. Red is known to be a bold color that allows a shy woman to step out of her comfort zone and be put in the front and center. Red lipstick has a strong meaning of being fearless, powerful and passionate. The color is bold and draws a lot of attention to your mouth and the words you speak. I wore Ruby Woo on a job interview and listen I left the building like the job is mine! I allowed my passion and energetic personality speak for itself. Red lipstick is definitely my anthem.
When you take a risk you have to be confident in yourself and your ability to achieve your goals. After moving to a new city that was the biggest risk I've taken in my life and ever since then I know I can make anything happen. I’m no longer afraid to stand up for what I love and my passions. I’m not afraid to experience a few struggles to chase my dreams.
When you begin to love and invest in yourself you will create a different vibe that will not only cause you to level up but inspire others that anything is possible. To the girl, I was in the past I forgive you.